As the ever impending election approaches, I have been extremely loathe to say anything in public about it other than, “I’m washing my hands of this crap.” and even then, it’s still important to me and I’m still struggling with the idea of voting on Tuesday.
That said, I do want to say what I think of Question 1, and why it’s important to vote “yes” on Tuesday.
Marriage is an increasingly rare commitment in our day and age, and especially in my generation. The Pew Research Institute says that “In 1960, 72% of all adults ages 18 and older were married; today just 51% are.” Half of the people in America can’t find any reason to commit to another human being for life, put up with all of their strange quirks and love them anyway. This doesn’t surprise me, especially in a consumer driven society, where choosing a partner is a lot like choosing which candy bar you want to eat next.
As disgusting as that is, there are a lot of people who want to be married to one another who cannot do so because the law does not allow them to make a life commitment they want to make. There are same sex couples out there trying desperately to be married because they are ready, nay, excited at the idea of spending their life loving just one other person. Why are we trying to stop this? What is wrong with our society, that we would rail against those who desire so much to be married?
In a world where we are encouraged by the media not to commit, where television and books tell us to have as many partners as we want, and people treat one another poorly because they don’t know how to stick to a person when it’s hard, there are those who say NO to monogamous, loving relationships?
I say to you that rather than destroy the institution of marriage, allowing same-sex couples to marry each other will build it up. It will increase the beauty and the preciousness of marriage. It will allow those people who have already committed in their hearts, and in their minds, and in their lives, to another person of the same sex. (That number is 646,000, by the way.)
As a last note, I do want to say that I understand there are many legal benefits to being married, and that some people are concerned because same-sex couples would be allowed these benefits “unfairly” in their minds, and that is their primary concern, rather than monogamy and commitment. My response to that would be, “Why do you care who someone else marries?” and that you should probably get your nose out of others’ relationships, because it’s none of your business who is having sex with whom. If it was, they would tell you. If you don’t want anyone to mess with your sex life, than you should probably stop trying to mess with others’ sex lives.
I believe a wise Book once said, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” If you can’t follow your own Book, then you’re not really in a position to say much of anything.
So if you want to PROTECT the institution of marriage and ENCOURAGE others to live in loving, monogamous relationships, vote YES on 1 this Tuesday.